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"AVOIDING BLABLU AND BITING YOUR

TONGUE IN ORDER TO GET BLABLUB, YOU

ARE GIVING AWAY YOUR BLEBLI WHICH

WILL DO NOTHING FOR YOU BUT LEAVE

YOU FEEL BLUBIU."

"I guide men

who lost integrity

towards their own

values and sell

their blublub for

approval at the

cost of their

blibubli: reclaim

their balbli and

embody their

blablliblubtibu."

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I offer embodiment coaching for men whose nice-guy syndrome, people-pleasing and avoidance issues wreak havoc in their intimate relationships, and stops them living out their full potential. – This kind of coaching uses a combination of integral development and embodiment to bring about permament shifts in your world paradigm and behavior patterns.

[ specifically I work with men who ]

  • struggle with assertiveness

  • have nice-guy tendencies

  • are dependant on external validation

  • lack confidence and suffer from anxiety

  • are avoidant and struggle to build
    a fulfilling intimate relationship

  • are commited to becoming a
    better partner in their relationship

  • are interested in sexual development

  • have done a fair amount self-development work, but haven't yet used their body to integrate it

  • know all the 'theory', but struggle to cement lasting changes

  • are interested in an integral approach to personal and spiritual growth 

How
I am
able
to
help
you
:

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EMBODIMENT
COACHING

Embodiment coaching - also referred to as somatic coaching - uses awareness and choice of the body to facilitate behavioral and mental change.

There are many effective tools and techniques to use in embodiment coaching, all centered around working with and through the body to initiate deep, lasting change.

[ why embodiment is so important ]

There's a lot of info out there on personal growth, but often this can lead to one becoming stuck on the surface of theoretical conceptualization. Embodiment offers a way to make these lesson learned a lived-part of your reality.

Think of it as an effective way to integrate timeless principles for a better living of life. Because until these principles become a habitual, automatic, visceral response, one lived through your body and nervous system, they aren't integrated.

"Integrate the theoretical knowledge of self-development and spiritual growth into a consistent part
of your lived experience. This is the establishment of lasting change. – This is your evolution."

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cognitive

understanding

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integration through

using the body

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growth through embodiment

To support & deepen the process of integration,

I further follow Ken Wilber's approach of:

INTEGRAL
THEORY

Integral Theory has greatly shaped and deepened my understanding of myself, the world and my work as a bodyworker. Where applicable and when requested, I offer an integral framework to help facilitate your process.

[ aspects include ]

  • integrating the various aspects of your being

  • stages of development according to various developmental models

  • the embodiment of types (e.g. masculine & feminine; archetypes; personality types)

  • understanding the 4 quadrants and how it shapes your interaction with reality:

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WHAT YOU WILL GET

Embodiment coaching based on a framework of integral development is the most optimal line of develop for the nice-guy. Through it you will,

[ benefits ]

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  • integrate secure internal validation and confidence

  • revive a confidence in asserting your will and opinion in healthy ways

  • discover your ability to uphold boundaries

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  • start living a fufilling life on your own terms & with healthy interdependence

  • develop the skills to keep your intimate relationship thriving & passionate

  • learn to connect with other men

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  • develop a deeper body-consciousness

  • cultivate discipline through commiting to an embodiment practice

  • embody your healthy expression of masculinity

CORE THEMES

Ultimately any theme or issue can be worked on through embodiment coaching, however I have particular experience and interest with the following topics:

THE

EMBODIED MAN

 

  • healthy & heart-intent masculinity

 

  • male sexuality

 

  • your own unique expression over what is portrayed in society and social media

EMBODIED

MASCULINITY

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OVERCOMING

PEOPLE PLEASING

 

  • analysis to find roots

 

  • unpacking the deceptiveness of people-pleasing

 

  • embodying healthy assertiveness

 

  • breaking through blocks to owning your power

PEOPLE

PLEASING

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DEEPENING

INTIMACY

 

  • embodied intimacy

 

  • authenticity & communication

 

  • understanding & embodying polarity

 

  • healthy approaches & solutions to relationship conflicts

INTIMATE

RELATIONSHIPS

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  INTEGRATING

  THE SHADOW

 

  • recognizing positive /negative projections

 

  • 3-2-1-0 process of
    re-owning & integrating shadow aspects of the personality

 

  • integrating & transcending rather than rejecting and disowning stages of development (integral theory framework)

 

  • embodiment practices
    which facilitate shadow integration

SHADOW

WORK

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COACHING OUTLINE

[ 1:1 coaching package includes ]

  • 4 x 90 mins coaching sessions over 2 months

  • accountability tracking

  • tailored homework

  • individualized recommendations for embodiment practice

  • supportive listening & space for you to gain your own insights

  • experience insights on a visceral, felt-sense level (not just intellectualized)

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"Ich bin begeistert und würde jedem eine Massage bei Fred empfehlen. Das Vorgespräch und seine Einschätzung waren sehr hilfreich. Durch seine hörbare Atmung wird man daran erinnert konstant und tief zu atmen, was zusätzlich entspannt. 5/5 Sternen. Selbstverständlich werde ich erneut hingehen."

Anil, Senior Consultant

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TESTIMONIALS

[ this is for you if you ]

have mister-nice-guy tendencies
 are dependent on external validation
– struggle with being assertive and are avoidant
 lack confidence and suffer from anxiety

 struggle to build a fulfilling intimate relationship
yet are
committed to become a better partner
– are interested in sexual development

– have done a fair amount of self-development work,
but haven't yet used your body to integrate it

– 
are interested in an integral approach to 
personal development and spiritual growth
– know all the 'theory' but struggle cement lasting change

1.  MISTER NICE GUY
dependent on external validation
struggle being assertive
lack confidence, suffer from anxiety

2. UNFULFILLING RELATIONSHIP
avoidance – not fulfilling
want to be a better parner, develop sexually

3. BEING STUCK
done a lot of work, knows all the theory,
yet struggle with lasting change
curious for integral & embodied appraoch

1.  MISTER NICE GUY
dependent on external validation
struggle being assertive
lack confidence, suffer from anxiety

Are you frustrated from letting
other people overstep your boundaries 



2. UNFULFILLING RELATIONSHIP
avoidance – not fulfilling
want to be a better parner, develop sexually

3. BEING STUCK
done a lot of work, knows all the theory,
yet struggle with lasting change
curious for integral & embodied appraoch

"I guide men